Specialties - Therapy for Toxic Shame & Negative Self Talk

Don't let Negative Self Talk & Toxic Shame run the show.

Rediscover the Worth That Has Always Been Yours.

Psychotherapy for Women, Queer, & Trans Adults in New York State struggling to quiet their inner critics.

Get out of my head!

The Voice You Cannot Escape

“You’re not enough." "You're too much." "Why did you do that?" "God, you’re an asshole.” Underneath these words lives toxic shame. This shame rises in moments of stillness. It doesn’t just say “You made a mistake.” It insists, You are the mistake.

Why? Because this world can deny your worth - the over-culture tells you to be small, agreeable, or perfect. You carry the scars of being objectified or performing emotional labor that leaves you bone weary.

Or, the pain comes from family rejection, hiding who you are, or the sting of micro-aggressions. Even in spaces meant to feel welcoming, you feel like you feel off kilter.

And you've gotten good at telling yourself, "I'm fine," but you feel lost. You believe that you shouldn’t need help, don’t deserve it, or that it's too late for you. We've all received the cultural messaging that we need to “do, do, do,” but this left you feeling like a ghost in your own life.

Negative self-talk is a thief that steals your joy.

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The cost of staying stuck in shame...

It's been so hard.

Unaddressed shame seeps into every part of your life. Relationships grow strained and self-sabotage becomes second nature. You find yourself people-pleasing, shrinking, or lashing out. Over time, this disconnection can lead to the sense that you’re just going through the motions.

You wonder, Is this all there is? But that inner voice telling you you’re broken? It’s not yours — it’s the residue of trauma and stories that no longer serve you. It’s the echo of toxic shame, born from cultural wounds and inherited family pain.

‍Together we can enter this world of pain and come out with gold.‍

Why This Work Matters.

Because this stuff runs so deep.

Is kindness possible?

Toxic shame can feel like an undeniable truth—that love, success, and peace are meant for others but not for you. It’s not imaginary; it feels real because it is real in your experience. I’m not here to dismiss it or pretend it doesn’t matter. Instead, we’ll acknowledge its weight and give it space to be seen and understood.

Healing begins by approaching shame with curiosity and compassion. Together, we’ll gently untangle the patterns of self-judgment that have shaped your life. You don’t have to keep shrinking yourself to feel safe—there is space for you to exist fully, just as you are.

This isn’t about fixing or forcing anything—it’s about creating room to listen and understand. We’ll explore where these feelings began and why they’ve held on so tightly. With time, we’ll cultivate a new way of being, rooted in self-compassion and worthiness.

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How We’ll Work Together

In our work together, we’ll create a space where the cruel voice of self-judgment can be spoken aloud. Here, you are allowed to say that you feel broken, unworthy, or beyond repair—and I will not rush to convince you otherwise.

Instead, I will sit with you in this pain, honoring it as something that has carried a message, a story, or a truth that longs to be heard. You are someone who has carried too much for too long, often without kindness or support.

We'll get to know your inner critics.

Negative self-talk often feels like a harsh authority in your mind. We’ll learn to listen to that voice—not to agree with it, but to understand where it comes from. Through mindfulness and somatic exploration, you’ll begin to respond with compassion instead of shame.

The beliefs you hold—“I’m unworthy,” “I’m not enough”—likely began long ago. Together, we’ll uncover where these stories originated and rewrite them. Through reflection, narrative work, and gentle exploration, we’ll build a new story rooted in self-trust and truth.

Releasing Shame from the Body.

Shame doesn’t just live in your mind; it lives in your body. Maybe it’s in the tightness of your throat, the weight in your chest, or the slump of your shoulders. Using somatic therapy and grounding techniques, we’ll help you release what’s been stored and reclaim a sense of safety within yourself.

Exploring Shame Through Creative Expression:

When words fail, creativity speaks. Whether through journaling, collage, or movement, we’ll find new ways to process your pain and reconnect with parts of yourself that have been silenced. Here, you can give form to the feelings that live beneath the surface.

Building a Practice of Self-Acceptance:

Healing from self-loathing requires intention and practice. Together, we’ll create small rituals—moments of self-care and affirming connection—that remind you daily: You are worthy of your own love.

What's Waiting for You...

Imagine waking up without dread or doubt pressing on your chest. Picture yourself moving through your days with ease, free from the constant hum of self-criticism. Envision a life where you speak to yourself as you would a beloved friend—gently, with understanding.Healing is possible, and it starts with this first step.

‍Let’s take this journey together—toward self-acceptance, freedom, and a love for the person you are always becoming.

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