Specialties - Psychotherapy for the mother wound

Healing the Mother (parent) Wound

Cut the Cords Holding You Back...

Individual psychotherapy for women, queer, & trans folks living with painful parent relationship dynamics.

Psychotherapy for folks with complicated parent relationships.

How do I cut these tangled cords?

Do you wake each morning with shame pressing on you, that somehow you’re just bad but you can’t exactly name why? Perhaps it’s the pang of guilt when you don't call or the tight knot of self-doubt when you attempt speak your truth.

This pain often stems from the mother wound—a tender, ancestral ache carried to you from your mother or caregiver. It’s the quiet pull to sacrifice yourself, to perform, to please, to hold the peace at the expense of your own wholeness.

The Stories Might Sound Like:

• “You owe her everything—she gave you life.”
• “You should love her unconditionally, no matter what.”
• “Family is everything—never turn your back on her.”
•“You’ll regret it when she’s gone.”

These beliefs are meant to keep you loyal...

...but they can also keep you stuck—silencing your pain, denying your truth, and trapping you in cycles of guilt and shame. ‍

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What the Mother Wound does to You.

Do You Feel This Too?

Each time her name lights up your phone, a familiar pull tugs at you—a sense of obligation. You tread carefully through conversations, choosing your words with precision. You wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”

You smile through a mask as friends share stories about their moms. You wonder why your relationship is so different. You tell yourself you should be grateful, others have it worse. The truth is, you’ve been silencing your feelings for years. Acknowledging them feels like an act of betrayal but deep down, you know something isn’t right and it's terrifying.

The mother wound left unhealed, holds you in patterns of striving, pleasing, and performing.

When these cultural narratives take root, their echoes may weave into the fabric of your daily life, revealing themselves as:
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• Feeling guilty for setting boundaries or saying no.
• Suppressing your true self to avoid disapproval.
• Rationalizing her behavior with excuses like, “She had hard."
• Struggling with self-doubt, wondering if you’re “too sensitive.”
• Hiding the true state of your relationship and pretending.

These patterns can feel normal, but they come at a cost—your emotional well-being.

This relationship reverberates through your life.

This is about more than your relationship with mom or parent...

It’s about how that relationship reverberates through your life. You feel its pull when you struggle to set boundaries, overcommit at work, or pour yourself into lopsided friendships. Left unhealed, it holds you in patterns of striving, pleasing, and performing.

But that’s NOT where your story has to end.

‍Healing the mother wound is not about blame—it’s about liberation. It’s the sacred act of reclaiming yourself, of giving voice to the feelings you’ve buried deep. Imagine the lightness of easing these difficult feelings, of sitting with yourself without fear or overwhelm.

Together, we will trace the threads of how your relationship with your mother has shaped the beliefs that hold you back—the hesitation to ask for help, the fear of disappointing others.

As you uncover the parts of yourself you’ve kept hidden, you’ll rewrite your story and step into the fullness of your being.

We're not just having a conversation...

We’re starting a journey. I don’t believe in offering generic solutions or simply rehashing the past. Therapy with me isn’t about lying on a couch while I silently scribble notes. It’s about creating a space where you feel deeply seen, heard, and supported – a space where it’s safe to bring the fullness of who you are, even the parts you’ve been told to keep hidden.

Together, we’ll create a space where you can safely unpack the weight you’ve been carrying and begin to understand its roots. From there, we’ll gently explore ways to shift old patterns, release what no longer serves you, and reconnect with the authentic self you’ve hidden away.In session, we follow the rhythm of what you bring into the room.Sometimes that means diving into a story or memory that’s been heavy on your heart.

Exploring the Roots of the Wound

Healing the mother wound starts with understanding its origins. Together, we’ll gently explore the stories and dynamics that have shaped your relationship with your mother and how they’ve influenced your sense of self. This isn’t about blame but about uncovering the hidden narratives that keep you feeling stuck. By understanding where these patterns began, you’ll gain clarity and compassion for yourself, creating the foundation for meaningful change.

Releasing the Pain Held in Your Body

Your body often holds the emotions you’ve suppressed—grief, anger, guilt—manifesting as tension or heaviness. Through somatic practices like grounding, mindful movement, or breathwork, we’ll create space to release these emotions in a safe, supported way. Tuning into your body allows you to reconnect with yourself, letting go of what no longer serves you. This process helps you move through pain and discover a sense of lightness and ease.

Rewriting the Stories You’ve Inherited

The stories you’ve been told—about family, loyalty, or what it means to be “good”—can feel like chains holding you back. Together, we’ll examine these narratives and explore which ones no longer serve you. Using reflective and creative techniques, we’ll rewrite these stories in a way that feels true to you, creating space for empowerment and freedom. This work allows you to step into a new chapter, one where your voice and needs are fully honored.

Cultivating Self-Compassion and Boundaries

One of the most powerful steps in healing the mother wound is learning to meet yourself with kindness. We’ll work on quieting the inner critic that says you’re “not enough” and replacing it with a compassionate voice rooted in self-acceptance. As you develop this self-compassion, setting boundaries becomes less about guilt and more about protecting your peace. This shift allows you to create relationships—both with yourself and others—that feel nourishing and aligned with your needs.

Healing the mother (or parent) wound is deeply personal.

So, there’s no right or wrong way to navigate it. Some sessions might feel light or like a breakthrough; others might feel heavy, like a long exhale you didn’t know you needed. Every step is part of the process of reconnecting with yourself, your body, and your truth.

‍When you’re ready, I’m here to meet you exactly where you are, with compassion, presence, and a commitment to helping you find the freedom and wholeness you deserve.

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